Talking and making sense - The art of communication

 

Hi princess,

I just came back from a scintillating concert which had many parts - Carnatic Violin, Carnatic Vocals, Odissi and Kathak performances. Two very young girls performed Odissi and their confidence and skill at such a young age just blew me away. I hope you grow up and excel at something you like as well. I have been thinking what to write and this very significant topic just popped up in my mind - The art of communication. 

We always try to tell people things, ever since we are babies - we babble to know what we want from our parents and then slowly learn to talk, scream, shout and cry. All of them are forms of communicating, of saying what you want to say. These letters themselves are my way of communicating everything I feel and think to you. But, effective communication is an art, every politician, entertainer, comedian knows this art very well. There are countless resources to teach you this art, but the following is what I have learnt from my life. 

Smiling makes someone's day, whether it's a cab driver, a barista or anyone you encounter - if are not sad yourself, spread the cheer and make them feel a part of your happiness. Similarly, a kind thank you ( a kind one, not a curt formal one) shows your appreciation in a small way towards all people you encounter and interact with. 

Never be afraid to state facts, but be careful about opinions. Often, we encounter people who pride themselves on being very "straightforward", actually often to their own disadvantage. Facts are sacrosanct, but opinions change and may be ill-informed, be very careful about communicating opinions, because an ill-informed opinion might cause unnecessary complications. 

Know the right place, time and mode to state facts, brash talking and matter of fact way of putting things might not be the best way every time. 

Talk you heart out and be honest - one thing I often regret is how less I talked to my father before he left us. Talk and clear your emotions and thoughts. People are built for communication, not for isolation. 

Making bullet points helps most of the time.

Silence is better than confused thoughts and expression.

Use words judiciously, a lot can be said in less words.

Best,

Dad

P.S - Last point, Always talk to dad :)